Ideally, this was headed to Antebellum Fetish Art Gallery. But since Antebellum has closed, I’m not sure where it’s heading or if it will be done by V-Day. I’ll bring it to Threshold for My Kinky Valentine on February.
I’ll admit, this site is chock full of penis.
For those from Instragram, welcome! Those new to the site might think WTF is with the gay stuff? And Gay readers have no doubt been thinking WTF is with the straight stuff?
Well, tell ya truthfully, almost everyone who asked is male. Modern fetish and kink has roots in Gay Leather. So if you were a straight male or female, you had to go to the gay leather bars and shops to learn about fisting, bondage, and leather gear. Funny, women seem to have no problems with this. Straight men get a little apprehensive.
Even today, European fetish mags and communities include men into the kinky mix with latex, high heels and drag. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Here’s something weird though. I’m now finding more kinky straight people than gay folk. As the Leatherman community becomes older, kink is just not for the young gay crowd. We know part of this is AIDS related. BDSM was a safer way to meet and fuck because you didn’t mix bodily fluids. We now have HIV cocktails, anti virals and PrEP. So AIDS isn’t the giant threat it once was to the gay world. As I’ve mingled in places like the Tom Of Finland Foundation, Faultline and Antebellum, more and more gay men have asked me where to find bondage, flogging, spanking and kink. I used to know half a dozen gay kink groups, but the answer now seems to be places like Threshold, Sanctuary LAX and Lair de Sade.
I have yet to hear a straight man ask what my deal is with lesbian themes.
Funny though, women seem to already know this. I hear words like Queer and Genderqueer thrown around a lot in the BDSM scene, but mostly by gay and bisexual women. They know what I’ve known for ages, and it’s the reason why you’ll see both gay and straight (and more) themes in my artwork.
Even though Tom of Finland has deep leather roots, I’m seeing less and less kinky artists at their events. Guys were surprised to see me adding on clothespins and rope bondage in the drawing workshop.
Fetish is fluid! Raunchy as it sounds, there’s not much difference between one hole and another, a rubber dick verses a flesh one, and an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. Women in the scene have found it much easier to let go of gender based sexuality and embraced transgender, queer and gay culture, much to the chagrin of gay and straight men.
That’s why I have no problem drawing men on men, transgender, women on men, women on women, Dominant, submissive, switch and pansexual. I let go of those restrictions a long time ago. Kink is kink and kink is fucking hot!
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